Sunday, January 28, 2018

The kindness of a sandwich

We are blessed that we are able to send our daughter to a Sacred Heart school here in the New Jersey. One of the main reasons that we chose the school was their focus on social justice and community involvement.  Lucy has always been a deeply empathetic child so having her in a space where she can express that and have the ability to act on it was important.

This past week her school participated in a program called Loaves and Fishes.  The students made sandwiches for bag lunches to give out at St Mary's in Trenton.  The entire school gets involved.  The day began with the teachers setting the intention of giving to others.  And with that, they started.

The girls formed an assembly line of bread, cheese and luncheon meat.  As the sandwich was passed down, an ingredient was added until it was complete and arrived at my daughter to place in the bag.  It was here that Lucy paused and noticed what was happening.

Some of the sandwiches were meticulously prepared, others were done in haste.  Lucy noticed and said something to her friends.  As she relayed the story to us, she said something like this:

"Hey guys, take your time putting together the sandwiches.  Someone is going to receive this and eat it.  Someone who doesn't have as much as we do.  Would you rather have a neatly made sandwich or a messy sandwich?"

And as she told us the story, Mitch and I held back tears.  Tears of absolute pride.  Because she gets it.  Giving to others is so valuable.  But you must give in a way that respects the value and pride of the recipient.  And in so doing, you are also respecting all of humanity and ultimately yourself.

Because every person deserves to be treated with kindness.  And even such a small thing as how you make a sandwich can reflect that.

I'm proud of Lucy for speaking up.  And proud of her friends and classmates for participating in this day of giving.  And of the school for providing the opportunity to give to others.

Because, charity is an act of love. And learning how to be charitable is a gift that one carries for life.  And you never know when you might need to be on the receiving end.  And when you are, which sandwich would you prefer?  The neat one or the messy one.

You know the answer.  And I'm proud that my daughter at the young age of 13 knows it too.

Sunday, October 01, 2017


Yesterday I made a batch of raspberry chocolate rugelach.   My recipe is a combination of a few recipes plus my own modifications/additions over the years.

I love making this cookie.  It's super easy and always a delicious crowd pleaser.  You can modify the filling based on your own preferences.  My preference is on the sweeter side with raspberry jam and chocolate chips.

Here it is with one caveat: I am not a professional baker so I can't guarantee that these directions are perfect.  Also, you may brush tops with butter before sprinkling with sugar but I have found that they are pretty tasty with out the additional butter!


8 ounces cottage cheese
1 cup butter - 2 sticks
2 cups all purpose flour
1/4 tsp kosher salt
1 tsp sugar

1 cup Bonne Maman rasberry jam
1 cup Ghiradelli mini chocolate chips

In an electric mixer mix cottage cheese and butter until well blended.  In a separate bowl combine flour, salt and sugar.  Add flour mixture to mixer and combine.  Do not over mix.

Place dough onto a work surface and knead into a ball.  Divide into two.  Shape into disks.  Wrap in wax paper and chill in fridge for 1-2 hours.

Preheat oven to 350.  Use convection if you have it.

Place disks on lightly floured work surface.  Roll out to 1/8" thickness and about 8x12" rectangle.  Cut into roughly 1 x 4" strips.

Warm jam in microwave for 15 seconds.  Spoon thin layer of warmed jam onto strips of dough.  Sprinkle chocolate chips on top.  Roll each strip and place seam side down on baking sheet lined with parchment paper.

Sprinkle sugar over prepared cookies

Place baking sheet in oven for 17-20 minutes until tops are lightly browned.

Remove from oven and allow to cool for 10 minutes on baking sheet.


Sunday, November 20, 2016

Stowe Bag Tips and Tricks

I am processing this election as best I can and I'm sure you are too.  One of my favorite coping strategies is to make stuff.  Once I find a pattern that is interesting and challenging (but not too challenging), I tend to make it a few times until I feel that I've mastered it.

This week I worked on the Stowe Bag from Grainline Studios.  This project bag was designed with Fringe Supply Company, an amazing purveyor of knitting accessories and notions.  I've seen the bag on lots of Instagram pages and decided to give it a try.  So far I've completed two small versions of the bag.

My fabric choices are Cotton and Steel linen/cotton blends.   The first is the collection from Rifle Paper Company and the second is a Melody Miller print.  Both are a heavier weight which is good because it gives the bag structure.  The bias tape is made from standard quilting cotton.  The first is again a Rifle Paper print and the second is a Tula Pink Stripe.

The pattern is fairly straight-forward but like making socks, it's better to just do what they tell you to do rather than try to figure out why.  This is particularly important for step 13.  Grainline Studios has a tutorial here if you want more info.

But let's back up.  First, do cut out the pattern for the main bag from the pattern.  For the interior pockets, take measurements and, if you are comfortable with a rotary cutter, cut out the pieces per the dimensions.  Mark all sewing lines with a chalk marker.

I made my own bias tape using a Clover Bias tape maker.  I like my bias a bit wider (it's also easier to work with for a newbie) so I made a finished bias tape with a 1/2" width.  What that means is that I cut bias strips just shy of 2 inches.  I cut mine about 1 7/8th.  I'll explain why in a bit.  You will need about 60 inches of double folded bias tape.

Proceed through the pattern until Step 5.  You may choose to serge the sides and bottom of your bag for a cleaner look.  I did not do that with my first bag seen below which looks fine.  A zigzag will suffice.

To apply the bias tape I have a few suggestions.  In fact this is where I have most of my suggestions.

1. In Step 7, pin bias tape to the wrong side of bag.  Use a lot of pins!!!  Sew.
2. In Step 8, fold bias tape to the front of bag.  PIN.  A lot.  Then if you have a Bernina, put on the #10 foot and place the guide to the left of the bias tape, move needle to the right one or two positions and stitch.  This will look much neater than what they suggested.  I followed their directions for my first bag and my changes for the second bag (bottom of this post).
3. In Step 11, do not sew the bias tape together.  It's easier to apply if it is not in a loop.  Just leave an inch unsewn at the beginning.  When you get to the end, fold the final end over, lap the start of bias tape inside the folded edge, stitch.  Continue to apply bias tape as suggested above.

My second bag looks much better as far as the bias tape.  Again, pinning and reversing the application of the bias tape made a huge difference.

Now to why to cut it 1 7/8" instead of 2".  The main reason is that it is easier to feed it through the bias tape maker!  Try making the bias tape with a strip of each width and let me know what you think. 

The rest of the bag can be finished as instructed. Again, Step 13 will make sense after you do it.  I promise.   I did not do Step 15 because I wanted the bag to fold up when not in use.

I'll probably modify this after I make another one.  As for now, hope my tips help!

And one final thing.  If you would like to purchase this pattern, the store where I work will be happy to order one for you. ;)

Happy Stitching.  


Monday, November 14, 2016

Processing the election and where to go from here

Theoretically this is a site for me to talk about knitting or sewing or maybe exercise or perhaps tackling existential questions.  But today it's a bit more serious.

Last week, Donald Trump was elected to the highest elected office in our country.  He lost the popular vote but managed to win through the machinations of our electoral college.

I'll be honest.  I'm devastated.  I cried off and on for 6 days.  Today I had a few tiny tears.  Now I'm angry.

Like really really angry.

Because this man and his "friends" are going to turn our country into their own playground of destruction.

He's hired Steve Bannon, White-nationalist in-chief to be his chief strategist.

This action.  This hire pushed me over the edge.  Because Steven Bannon is an absolutely horrible person.

Sure, he's bright.  He served in the Navy, earned an MBA from Harvard and worked as an investment banker at Goldman-Sachs.  But that doesn't make up for what an jerk he is.

So what to do next?  A lot of people are wondering how they can be active and protect our freedoms. After reading the suggestions form others on social media, I've come up a with a list of a few ideas.

1.  Donate money to organizations involved in social justice.  It doesn't have to be much.  Even $10 is helpful.  These organizations have so many expenses including salaries, grant-writing, mailings, printing.  Every single dollar helps.  Plus, the more donors an organizations has, the better able it is to ask for money from larger donors and foundations.

2. Volunteer at these organizations.  They might need help stuffing envelopes or assembling reports.  Maybe they need drivers.   Or someone to answer the phones.  Or offer to help them raise money.  Enlist your friends.

3. Protest.  Freedom of assembly is part of your right outlined in the First Amendment.  You can peacefully protest in a small group or a large group.  Head to Washington in January or join others outside Trump properties. You may also choose protest by boycotting Trump properties and products made by him and his children.

4. Support your community.  If you don't like to protest, support those who do.  Cheer them on and give encouragement.  If you don't have extra money to donate to an organization, offer your services to them.

5.  Do whatever makes you comfortable.  You should not feel shamed into action.  If your way of protesting is to blog and repost articles, that's awesome.  Need to get off social media?  Speak your mind to friends.  But remember, you must protect yourself.  If you ever feel unsafe or attacked, pull back.  There's no reason to put yourself in harm's way.  We need you to stay safe and healthy.

6. Take care of yourself.  Protesting is exhausting both emotionally and physically.  Be sure to rest, eat well and exercise.  You are of no use to the movement if you are drained and unwell.  Take the time to go for a walk, hang-out with friends, take a sewing class (hint hint) or go to a movie.  Again, you cannot fight all the time.  Even the canons need to stop in order to reload.

We've got a long road ahead of us.  I'm not sure exactly what I'm going to do next.  Today I donated to the Southern Poverty Law Center and I signed a few petitiions.  Oh, and I wrote this blog post.

Tomorrow it will probably be more writing to leaders of our country.

And always, every day, I check in with those whom I know have been affected by the outcome of this election.  Friends have also reached out to me.  Remember, Secretary Clinton won the popular vote so there are more of us than there are Trump-supporters.

Keep calm, stay strong and fight.

Monday, February 15, 2016

"Vintage" Holiday Cookie Recipe

As a child I was fortunate enough to attend a fabulous Montessori preschool.  My memories of this place are warm and fuzzy, colorful and bright, inspiring and fun.  One of the very best parts of the program is that we got to cook.  Often.  And it was real food.  I remember making fried rice, ice cream and cookies.  Lots and lots of cookies.

Fortunately, my mother saved all of the recipes that the school sent home.  Each is illustrated and written out by hand.  I don't have the original copies of the recipes (hint hint Mom) but I did write a few down before I made my way out into the world.  When I was 23 and about to move into my first apartment, my mother and I sat down with her recipe box and copied down some of my favorites.  The Casady School Montessori Cookies made the list of all time best recipes.

Growing up we made these cookies throughout the year.  For Valentine's, Easter, Halloween, Thanksgiving and of course Christmas.  As a teenager, my friends would come over for cookie decorating parties.  It didn't matter how old we got, we still loved baking and decorating cookies with red hots, sugar and sprinkles.

The other thing that made these cookies so special was that my creative mother collected cookie fabulous cutters.  We had them in every shape and size for nearly every occasion.  The best ones were bought from the Hallmark Store.  Even now, almost 40 years later, they have a very distinct 1970's plastic smell.  When my mother moved, my brother and I packed them up and peacefully divided them between our households.

So, by now you are probably wondering what is this amazing recipe.  Of course I'm going to tell you! It's super simple which one would expect since it was made by 4 and 5 year olds.  Generally I do use the almond extract but if you have concerns about allergies, it may be omitted.  Enjoy and happy baking!


1 cup unsalted butter, softened
1 1/2 cups sugar
3 eggs
1 tsp vanilla extract
1 tsp almond extract
4 1/2 cups all purpose flour
food coloring - optional

Cream butter for 5 minutes.  Add sugar and cream for another 3-5 minutes until lightened in color.  Add eggs one at a time. Scrape down bowl as needed.  Mix in vanilla and almond extract.  Now is the time to also add food coloring.  Make it fairly dark as the color will lighten with the addition of flour and during the baking process.   Mix flour in 1/2 cup at a time.  Scrape down bowl.  You will have a very thick dough.

Divide dough into half or thirds and wrap in wax paper.  I find it best to shape dough into flat discs - it's easier to roll out after chilling.  Refrigerate for 2 hours or overnight.  On a floured surface roll out to 1/4 inch thick.  Cut and decorate.  Bake at 350 degrees for 8-10 minutes depending on the size of your cookie.  If you are using a convection oven reduce heat to 325 degrees.  Baking time remains the same.  They should be a very light brown in color on bottom.

Save one for me.